Now this topic isn't something that is to much related to science, unless you just include the brain's reaction. However it is something that has interested me for a long time. The reason why we get made over losing, even a simple card game with your family, or in a video game. Sometimes you can shake off the loss, but usually we react very negatively, very angry.
I have my own theory for this reaction. This is obviously my opinion and I haven't done any research to back this up, but it will certainly be plausible. My idea is that it's just because we are born with a very strong sense of pride, which is true. However would this pride really provoke such a response as we get when we lose. There are certain times where I think it would definitely not do this. However I have seen pride get in the way of many things, it is a very strong part of our human nature. It can drive us to do many thing that we would not otherwise be able to do, and I come to the conclusion that it would make us very angry if our pride was damaged, which really what is happening when we lose a game, match, or race.
Taking this one step further I want to analyze how some people control this. Certainly not everyone gets mad when they lose, so why would that be. I feel like it's because these types of people actually realize what I don't. They realize that the game really doesn't shape who they are, at least if it's on a small scale. I feel embarrassed when I lose, disappointed in myself, and that's why I get mad. I'm not usually mad at the other players, though I may say I am, If I lose it was a blow to me, and I don't like that very much. People who don't get mad about these types of losses somehow find away to remove themselves from the game. They understand that the game will be forgotten in a short amount of time, as long as they had fun they are satisfied.
While I understand this concept, I still get mad, sometimes even to the point where I just quit. There is no reason to be, but it happens anyway. I think there is definitely a way to control this type of emotion, as there is a way to control all emotions. As I said before it's more about removing yourself from the situation on a personal level, and just be there for the fun of it. Be there because it makes other people happy. If we worry about this more than the score it will probably be a much better outcome for everyone.
Ultimately I guess it just goes back to the mental aspect of life, which is most of it actually. You have to work to improve and get better, maybe to help you win the respective game you are playing in the future, or maybe to just improve the relationships of who you play with. Bottom line is there is really no reason to get mad, and we should think about that every time we feel that we are approaching that state of mind.
I have my own theory for this reaction. This is obviously my opinion and I haven't done any research to back this up, but it will certainly be plausible. My idea is that it's just because we are born with a very strong sense of pride, which is true. However would this pride really provoke such a response as we get when we lose. There are certain times where I think it would definitely not do this. However I have seen pride get in the way of many things, it is a very strong part of our human nature. It can drive us to do many thing that we would not otherwise be able to do, and I come to the conclusion that it would make us very angry if our pride was damaged, which really what is happening when we lose a game, match, or race.
Taking this one step further I want to analyze how some people control this. Certainly not everyone gets mad when they lose, so why would that be. I feel like it's because these types of people actually realize what I don't. They realize that the game really doesn't shape who they are, at least if it's on a small scale. I feel embarrassed when I lose, disappointed in myself, and that's why I get mad. I'm not usually mad at the other players, though I may say I am, If I lose it was a blow to me, and I don't like that very much. People who don't get mad about these types of losses somehow find away to remove themselves from the game. They understand that the game will be forgotten in a short amount of time, as long as they had fun they are satisfied.
While I understand this concept, I still get mad, sometimes even to the point where I just quit. There is no reason to be, but it happens anyway. I think there is definitely a way to control this type of emotion, as there is a way to control all emotions. As I said before it's more about removing yourself from the situation on a personal level, and just be there for the fun of it. Be there because it makes other people happy. If we worry about this more than the score it will probably be a much better outcome for everyone.
Ultimately I guess it just goes back to the mental aspect of life, which is most of it actually. You have to work to improve and get better, maybe to help you win the respective game you are playing in the future, or maybe to just improve the relationships of who you play with. Bottom line is there is really no reason to get mad, and we should think about that every time we feel that we are approaching that state of mind.
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